Sucker-punched …

... in the heat of battle

Spreading waves of …

love? acceptance? understanding? family? pain? moving forward? recovery?

Can we work it out?

Can we be a family?

… Fix you

Lights will guide you home, and agnite your bones, and i will try to ....

Give me those ruby slippers …

There's no place like home ...

The Great Escape.

You don't always get what you paid for.

The day with three meanings … (Triggers)

Freedom, Recognition, Appreciation

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Seven) …

Beware of triggers. Part One - One sided power games Point seven - does not inform or communicate important aspects of their lives (eg. New job, hobbies, who their with and where) So this tactic is abit confusing. For one point, you want your partner to enjoy their own lives, stay independent and as awesome…

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Six) …

Beware of triggers. Part One - One sided power games Point six - partner is always to tired, busy or occupied - no teamwork. Does this sound familiar? Once again, it sure did for me. I have heard alot of people say 'it's like I'm with a child' or 'I've gotta look after my big…

A little ‘Me’ update…

Happy at my New Home

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Five) …

Beware of triggers. Part One - One sided power games Point five - partner does most of the receiving. Does this sound familiar? Once again, it sure did for me. Though, as you go about your regular business everyday, you genuinely don't notice. When was the last time you had a bath? Or visited the…

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part one, Point Four) …

Beware of triggers . Part One - One sided power games Point four - partner always has to be right. Does this sound familiar? Once again, it sure did for me. I was ALWAYS wrong! (Really?). I have not experienced life's tragedies or it's hardships! (That's good isn't it?). I've still got both my parents,…

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part one, Point three) …

Beware of triggers . Point One - One Sided Power Games - Manipulates partners time and energy Does this sound familiar? Once again, it sure did to me. In the one instance he really didn't care where I was or who I was with. But, to the contrary of that, if I was somewhere he…

Green

"Nature's first green is gold" The one line of a book I read at 15yrs old. In my grade 10 English class the entire class was asked (begged) to read at least one chapter of a book. The book was to go towards our overall grade 10 certificate for English. The entire class had groaned,…

Triggers (2)

So, as I've written in an earlier post, (about triggers) I've experienced a new "trigger", and thought I would share. Now this one, as normal, came as a shock, and unfortunately has stuck with me for the majority of this day, so far. Hence, the decision to write it down and share with everyone. The…

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part one, Point two)…

Beware of triggers. Point One - One Sided Power Games - If one tactic does not work, he changes to a new tactic. Does this sound familiar? I struggled from this tactic all the time. Sometimes his behavior could go from anger to calm or calm to anger. Now it seems like the second option…

Circle of Domestic Violence

Beware of triggers - He determines how, when and what gets communicated. Does this sound familiar? It sure did for me. How many times something happened and I could not communicate with anyone or ask for help. I was constantly reminded that anything that happens in our marriage was 'Family business only' and no one…

Circle of Domestic Violence (Intro).

Beware of triggers. Another reason I started this blog is to share my knowledge and experiences of domestic violence. Unbeknownst to me, I was a victim of domestic violence and I thought I was living a completely normal life. It was hard and I struggled, but I honestly thought it was normal. Surly a marriage…

Triggers

So, I've been learning a lot lately about , triggers could be anything from; objects, words, places or even people. These 'triggers' turn on a lightbulb (or switch one off) in your brain, almost like knee-jerk reaction from the person affected. Some of these reactions are severe and others subtle, but always there ready to…

Break out of your box.

As a female, growing up was awkward. You were designed to walk and talk and follow the leader. While our wonderful parents encouraged us to be ourselves and show the world we are magic, they to became severely dissapointed when we weren't like everyone else. Pretty bows and ballerina shoes were thrust upon us because…

Telling my story …

Telling my story is something I never thought I could do. There has been so much happen, and still going on in my life, I have, naturally, come up with my own personal ways to deal/handle any situation with fairness and compassion. How do I do this? I hear you ask. Well that's where my…

A little about me…

I'm just starting a blog, recommended by many, to share my story of pain, and survival.