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Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Nine) …

Beware of triggers. Part One - One sided power games Point Nine - they make all the rules and all the big decisions This particular tactic can be very scary in relationships. Sometimes the rules are set on paper and must be obeyed without question or excuse. What you should wear. Who you can see.… Continue reading Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Nine) …

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Eight) …

Beware of triggers. Part One - One sided power games Point eight What matters is not what they do but what they Gain. OK, so this particular tactic does, once again, sound familiar. And also, once again, I could tag a lot of examples. This tactic really brings out the narcissist in people and, though… Continue reading Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Eight) …

What’s your level of expectation?

Unreasonably high, or level with what you willingly give in return or less to avoid disappointment. Expectations, should be high. Expectations, should be low. High expectations means disappointment. Low expectations mean no disappointment (or does it?) Why should I lower my expectations? To meet with the disappointing reality of the world Why should I keep… Continue reading What’s your level of expectation?

My panic attack

The world is heavy. The air is thin. Everything is out of focus. Your chest is tight. Desperate for breath (even-ness pls). Your hands are shaking. Your feet feel numb. Focus focus focus ... the world is NOT going to end ... everything is OK ... are you going to end? Ambulance? You are safe… Continue reading My panic attack

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Seven) …

Beware of triggers. Part One - One sided power games Point seven - does not inform or communicate important aspects of their lives (eg. New job, hobbies, who their with and where) So this tactic is abit confusing. For one point, you want your partner to enjoy their own lives, stay independent and as awesome… Continue reading Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Seven) …

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Six) …

Beware of triggers. Part One - One sided power games Point six - partner is always to tired, busy or occupied - no teamwork. Does this sound familiar? Once again, it sure did for me. I have heard alot of people say 'it's like I'm with a child' or 'I've gotta look after my big… Continue reading Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Six) …

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Five) …

Beware of triggers. Part One - One sided power games Point five - partner does most of the receiving. Does this sound familiar? Once again, it sure did for me. Though, as you go about your regular business everyday, you genuinely don't notice. When was the last time you had a bath? Or visited the… Continue reading Circle of Domestic Violence (Part One, Point Five) …

Thought of today!

I just found this amazing quote. It immediately made me want to blog this message, to share the never ending truth of your worth. No matter where you are or situation you are in, your worth is astronomical. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. Look in the mirror, what do you see? Look into… Continue reading Thought of today!

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part one, Point Four) …

Beware of triggers . Part One - One sided power games Point four - partner always has to be right. Does this sound familiar? Once again, it sure did for me. I was ALWAYS wrong! (Really?). I have not experienced life's tragedies or it's hardships! (That's good isn't it?). I've still got both my parents,… Continue reading Circle of Domestic Violence (Part one, Point Four) …

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part one, Point three) …

Beware of triggers . Point One - One Sided Power Games - Manipulates partners time and energy Does this sound familiar? Once again, it sure did to me. In the one instance he really didn't care where I was or who I was with. But, to the contrary of that, if I was somewhere he… Continue reading Circle of Domestic Violence (Part one, Point three) …

Green

"Nature's first green is gold" The one line of a book I read at 15yrs old. In my grade 10 English class the entire class was asked (begged) to read at least one chapter of a book. The book was to go towards our overall grade 10 certificate for English. The entire class had groaned,… Continue reading Green

Triggers (2)

So, as I've written in an earlier post, (about triggers) I've experienced a new "trigger", and thought I would share. Now this one, as normal, came as a shock, and unfortunately has stuck with me for the majority of this day, so far. Hence, the decision to write it down and share with everyone. The… Continue reading Triggers (2)

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part one, Point two)…

Beware of triggers. Point One - One Sided Power Games - If one tactic does not work, he changes to a new tactic. Does this sound familiar? I struggled from this tactic all the time. Sometimes his behavior could go from anger to calm or calm to anger. Now it seems like the second option… Continue reading Circle of Domestic Violence (Part one, Point two)…

Circle of Domestic Violence (Part one, Point one)…

Beware of triggers. Point one - One Sided Power Games - He determines how, when and what gets communicated. Does this sound familiar? It sure did for me. How many times something happened and I could not communicate with anyone or ask for help. I was constantly reminded that anything that happens in our marriage… Continue reading Circle of Domestic Violence (Part one, Point one)…

Circle of Domestic Violence (Intro).

Beware of triggers. Another reason I started this blog is to share my knowledge and experiences of domestic violence. Unbeknownst to me, I was a victim of domestic violence and I thought I was living a completely normal life. It was hard and I struggled, but I honestly thought it was normal. Surly a marriage… Continue reading Circle of Domestic Violence (Intro).

Triggers

So, I've been learning a lot lately about triggers. From my understanding, triggers could be anything from; objects, words, places or even people. These 'triggers' turn on a lightbulb (or switch one off) in your brain, almost like knee-jerk reaction from the person affected. Some of these reactions are severe and others subtle, but always… Continue reading Triggers

Break out of your box.

As a female, growing up was awkward. You were designed to walk and talk and follow the leader. While our wonderful parents encouraged us to be ourselves and show the world we are magic, they to became severely dissapointed when we weren't like everyone else. Pretty bows and ballerina shoes were thrust upon us because… Continue reading Break out of your box.

Telling my story …

Telling my story is something I never thought I could do. There has been so much happen, and still going on in my life, I have, naturally, come up with my own personal ways to deal/handle any situation with fairness and compassion. How do I do this? I hear you ask. Well that's where my… Continue reading Telling my story …