Circle of Domestic Violence (Intro).

Beware of triggers.

Another reason I started this blog is to share my knowledge and experiences of domestic violence. Unbeknownst to me, I was a victim of domestic violence and I thought I was living a completely normal life. It was hard and I struggled, but I honestly thought it was normal. Surly a marriage has ups and downs and you just push through. You constantly return your mind to ‘why your there,’ and ‘how much love you hold for your husband,’. You forgive and compromise, constantly, to find that happy place you imagined your marriage should be.

It wasn’t until I had a complete nervous breakdown and saw a councillor who made me realize that my sacrifices were in vain. I had completely exhausted myself trying to make everything OK. He, of course, denied everything, even when I pointed things out. It was always my fault and I had the problem not him.

I was given the circle of domestic violence and was shocked to find myself relating to almost all of the points attached. My aim is to slowly go through every single point and start a conversation over each of these points.

If you feel you, or someone you know, is experiencing any aspects of my future posts, please seek help immediately. Let’s start working together.

(Please also note, the points will be given from a female perspective, but I acknowledge that men are also victims. If any male readers find any points they, or someone they know, is experiencing, please also seek help and comment, thank you).

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3 thoughts on “Circle of Domestic Violence (Intro).”

  1. Perspective is amazing and sometimes the only way to extricate oneself from these situations. We don’t know what we don’t know, so information is key. What a courageous and helpful thing to post. I hope that women and men who are in abusive and violent relationships will take note, forgive themselves for not seeing it earlier, and seek help. 🙂

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  2. So sorry you have had to go through this. I can’t imagine raising a hand to my wife. I grew up in a home where I never saw my dad hit or raise his voice to my mother. He would let her yell at him and silently smile. I think it was because he knew she was right. I admire you courage and speaking out on domestic violence. I wish men would get help and stop doing this.

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