Looking at yourself. Are you happy? Are you whole? Are you living for you? Or everyone else???
So often perfectionists are told their not perfect. It’s feels like a massive boot to the guts, especially if someone is trying so hard to please everyone else around them in the never ending process …
Even people who are not self classed perfectionists, are trying their best to do the best for themselves and everyone around them. Their efforts are more times than not are not noticed or appreciated. Sometimes even expected
Going through hard times a little while ago I was constantly reminded that I was not perfect. Well, yes, thankyou, I know this but it doesn’t mean I’m not going to do my best to try and please everyone around me including myself to be as perfect as I can possibly be. This way of thinking I have since discovered is useless as you simply can’t please everyone.
The effort involved with perfectionism is exhausting and just keeps on going and going and going. Constantly being on your best (perfect) behaviour, allows your brain to slam into overdrive and eventual breakdown is imminent. “Keeping up with the jones’ ” is a constant race where the light at the end of the tunnel is always going to be just out of reach.
Learning who is pushing this behaviour, or expecting it, is a great way, I found, to distance your self from people who are not respecting your being and ,possibly unintentionally, not allowing you o be who you truly want to be.
At the end of the day you are your own version of perfect and what others see in you is not always going to be what you see in the mirror. By allowing yourself to be who you truly want to be, and not losing yourself to the masses and their expectations, you become whole and happy.
Perfection can only be attained by accepting and imbracing the imperfection that is you.
What makes you perfect?
For yourself and your journey…