It’s got to be …

…. Perfect

Looking at yourself. Are you happy? Are you whole? Are you living for you? Or everyone else???

So often perfectionists are told their not perfect. It’s feels like a massive boot to the guts, especially if someone is trying so hard to please everyone else around them in the never ending process …

Even people who are not self classed perfectionists, are trying their best to do the best for themselves and everyone around them. Their efforts are more times than not are not noticed or appreciated. Sometimes even expected

Going through hard times a little while ago I was constantly reminded that I was not perfect. Well, yes, thankyou, I know this but it doesn’t mean I’m not going to do my best to try and please everyone around me including myself to be as perfect as I can possibly be. This way of thinking I have since discovered is useless as you simply can’t please everyone.

The effort involved with perfectionism is exhausting and just keeps on going and going and going. Constantly being on your best (perfect) behaviour, allows your brain to slam into overdrive and eventual breakdown is imminent. “Keeping up with the jones’ ” is a constant race where the light at the end of the tunnel is always going to be just out of reach.

Learning who is pushing this behaviour, or expecting it, is a great way, I found, to distance your self from people who are not respecting your being and ,possibly unintentionally, not allowing you o be who you truly want to be.

At the end of the day you are your own version of perfect and what others see in you is not always going to be what you see in the mirror. By allowing yourself to be who you truly want to be, and not losing yourself to the masses and their expectations, you become whole and happy.

Perfection can only be attained by accepting and imbracing the imperfection that is you.

What makes you perfect?

For yourself and your journey…

9 thoughts on “It’s got to be …”

  1. Your final sentence sums everything.

    “Perfection can only be attained by accepting and imbracing the imperfection that is you.”

    None of us can be perfect 100% of the time. Enjoy those fleeting moments when near-perfection lands close by.

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  2. When we follow the path of pleasing others we lose our authentic selves. Only by connecting with the spirit that is the true self will we find the respect we deserve. The need to please others will fall away, we instead perform acts of kindness that validates our life and touches other peoples souls. Best wishes on your journey. 😊

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  3. Well written and put, I totally agree and even though we always tend to be better, we should consider it as seeking improvement not perfection! We are perfect because we are unique, we are as unique as fingerprints and no matter whom we are and what we do, we should embrace our imperfections mostly because we are always perfect in someone’s eyes just the way we are, and we should be in our own eyes as well 🙂
    Thank you for sharing!

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  4. That is such a wise post. Pleasing others is exhausting work. Learning to keep a distance from anybody who wants you to be a certain way, or who keeps a ceiling on your self-expression, is one gateway to a less constrained life. If you shine out respect for others, it has to come back. Or the ways will slowly part.

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