Beware of triggers.
Another reason I started this blog is to share my knowledge and experiences of domestic violence. Unbeknownst to me, I was a victim of domestic violence and I thought I was living a completely normal life. It was hard and I struggled, but I honestly thought it was normal. Surly a marriage has ups and downs and you just push through. You constantly return your mind to ‘why your there,’ and ‘how much love you hold for your husband,’. You forgive and compromise, constantly, to find that happy place you imagined your marriage should be.
It wasn’t until I had a complete nervous breakdown and saw a councillor who made me realize that my sacrifices were in vain. I had completely exhausted myself trying to make everything OK. He, of course, denied everything, even when I pointed things out. It was always my fault and I had the problem not him.
I was given the circle of domestic violence and was shocked to find myself relating to almost all of the points attached. My aim is to slowly go through every single point and start a conversation over each of these points.
If you feel you, or someone you know, is experiencing any aspects of my future posts, please seek help immediately. Let’s start working together.
(Please also note, the points will be given from a female perspective, but I acknowledge that men are also victims. If any male readers find any points they, or someone they know, is experiencing, please also seek help and comment, thank you).